Running Toward
Two weeks ago, I introduced you to Samantha — a longtime client who realized, mid-session, that she was finally ready to leave a job that was slowly unraveling her. The math worked. But more importantly, the meaning didn’t.
Today, I want to talk about what happens after that realization.
Because you don’t have to be in crisis to sense that a shift is coming.
Sometimes the life you’re living starts to feel… off. Not bad. Not broken. Just misaligned.
And the longer you push through that season — putting your head down, keeping the routine alive, staying “grateful” for what you have — the harder it becomes to remember that you actually have a choice.
That most of the things you consider permanent… aren’t.
That the job, the house, the schedule, the spending, the roles you play — they were all chosen at one point in time. Which means they can be un-chosen, too.
But it’s hard to see that from the inside.
We build our lives with the best decisions we can make in the moment:
The job that paid enough to finally feel stable
The partner who helped calm the chaos
The house that was “the right move” even if it wasn’t the dream
The patterns that helped us feel in control
And sometimes, that life still works.
But sometimes, we realize it doesn’t quite fit anymore.
Not because we failed. But because we grew.
That moment — when you wake up and realize the life you’ve built no longer serves you — can be deeply disorienting.
It can feel like something broke. Like you broke.
But you didn’t.
You’re just waking up to your own agency.
You’re recognizing that everything in your life exists by your ongoing consent — and you can revoke that consent at any time.
You can shake the snow globe.
You can dream again.
You can make new choices.
So if you’re in a season that doesn’t quite fit anymore, I’ll offer this:
Don’t just run away from what’s not working.
Get clear on what you’re running toward.
Then give yourself permission to chase it.
In your corner,
— Andrew
P.S. If you’re ready to shake the snow globe but don’t know where to start, that’s what coaching is for.
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